How to Choose the Perfect Crystal

Not surprisingly, I get lots of questions about crystals. I've spent the last 11 months working with them, turning them into jewellery, and of course, matching the perfect stone to the perfect person during my custom crystal sessions. During this time, crystals have taught me a lot about who they are, and how they like to be worked with. As always, I still have much more to learn!

So I'm opening up the dialogue. This will be the first in many posts instructing you how to choose the perfect crystal for yourself or a loved one, how to work with them, and why they are so wonderful to have around.

First things first, choosing the perfect crystal requires release. It requires surrender. You must let go of all expectations in favour of what your inner guide shows you.

I'm giving you 2 different processes depending on where you're at on your journey. One is not necessarily better than the other.

For those just starting out: 

Simply enter the crystal store, and ask your inner guide to direct you to the perfect crystal for you, or the loved one you're asking about. Ask Archangel Michael to clear away any lower level energies around you during this process. Buy the first one you touch, unless you have a strong intuition about another one later on.

The second process is a bit more lengthy, but not necessarily superior.

When I choose crystals, this is what I do:

Before walking into the crystal store, I set the intention that I will choose the perfect crystal for the person in question. That this crystal will support their highest good, and only their highest good.

Upon walking in, I invoke the individuals inner guide, angels, and spirit guides. (Invoke your own if you're choosing for yourself - though this won't be hard, they're always with you!)

I then ask the guides, "What crystal would be perfect for _______?" and surrender my body. I walk to where I am guided. Sometimes this takes a few tries, as surrendering is a big factor in your success.

I usually am guided to a certain area, sometimes to a certain stone right away. If I'm guided to an area, and not quite to the perfect stone, I begin picking the crystals up. I say the person's name, calling on their energy, and use that energy to see if it's a match.

When a match happens, I'll either get a knowingness ('Yes! This one!') or find that the energy of that person flows a line into the crystal, and they are in union. They flow together. If it's not a match, the line of energy won't enter the crystal, forming a block. I created a diagram below to explain, since it's more a visual process.

A match:

If the crystal is a match, the subtle energy of the individual will travel directly into the crystal, forming a match that unifies as one energy.

Not a match:

If the crystal isn't a match, the energy of the individual won't full enter the crystal.

Keep in mind,
Your intuition is by far your best teacher. 

Always allow it to guide you, even if it tells you something different than I did, or a book did. Crystals are experiential. In my opinion, you can't learn to work with them through a book. You've got to play!

So have fun with it, and let me know if you have any questions in the comments below.

xo Beth

Breathing Room: Clearing

Back in September I gave you the first of a 3 part system to give yourself energetic breathing room. To give you a refresher, I use the term breathing room to indicate giving yourself space from the intense energies on the planet right now. It gives you a chance to establish boundaries, and to get to know yourself, without being affected unknowingly by the energies of your partner, your neighbours, or even your country!

Cutting cords was the first step. The second part to this is clearing. 

Clearing is essentially like taking a shower. 

You rinse yourself of all the grime you've accumulated from others, as well as any energies you've been inviting in that don't serve you. Clearing makes a huge difference when it comes to your happiness, your overall well being, and even your ability to hear your guides and angels. (I'll explain this in my upcoming course)

Water is an incredibly effective cleanser.

There are many ways to do this, and Im going to give you 3 of my favourite options. They all involve a short meditation or visualization of some sort.

1) When you're in the shower, visualize the water becoming composed of bright, sparkling white or blue light. (Or another colour if you get an intuitive hit on a hue) See this light pouring down on you, around you, and even inside of you. Set the intention that this light cleanses you of all energies that no longer serve you. Make sure to cleanse yourself of all other's energies as well. Say thank you to the water and to the light, and you're done!

2) Ask Archangel Michael to clear any and all attachments that are draining you in any way. See his vibrant royal blue or purple light clearing your energy field. That's all, you're done! That's why it's so wonderful to work with angels, they really do most of the work once you ask. 

3) Every few days, do a chakra clearing meditation. I recorded a video on how to do this recently, check it out here.

I make sure to clear myself daily using one of the above methods. 

Sometimes I feel a only a slight difference, but on the days where other energies are overwhelming my field, I instantly feel lighter and more grounded once I clear.

Have fun with it, and let me know if you have any questions in the comments below!

xo Beth

New Tumblr Account!

Since I was gifted my camera, I've been amassing pictures over the last 11 months. And although I use them on my blog and facebook, I felt as though I didn't have a medium that could convey what I wanted - just the images themselves.

But that has all changed! (Woohoo!) I'm now using a new tumblr account to showcase the photos I love to take, and the life I love to live. Check it out and bookmark it, as I'll be updating often.

Lots of love!
xo Beth

My Big Announcement

Last month I announced I was ending my love affair with creating crystal necklaces for all you beauties. A bittersweet decision but I needed to create some space for more projects, my first being one I am extremely excited about!

I am coming out with .... !!! You'll have to check out my latest vlog to find out ;) I will tell you that it has the ability to transform your life, BIG TIME!

Let's Talk Sex - The Goddess is Back

For most of my life I preferred to avoid sex, the topic of sex, and especially, why I was unable to get turned on in most instances when it was around. I figured I was just pure, and innocent, as my friends liked to say, and that it just wasn't a problem.

Enter my long term relationship and my spiritual path.

At the start of my relationship with my boyfriend, I was, for the first time in my life, completely turned on and loving sex. Our sex life was incredible, and I even experienced the odd 5 minute orgasm. Then, after some rocky times, something stopped working.

I no longer felt safe, turned on, or even willing to have sex, and the newfound pleasure I had been experiencing quickly vanished. Sex became difficult for me, emotionally, it scared me, and I'd do practically anything to avoid it. It took almost a year of seldom sex to really feel as though I was able to understand what was at the route of my dilemma, and I'd like to share it with all of you.

To begin this conversation, it is important to understand that the Goddess has long been suppressed - in religion, in popular culture, in politics, and in just about every aspect of life for the last few thousand years. From early on, the Catholic church made a point to demonize earth and Goddess loving religions, and turned many of the sacred symbols of such religions into unattractive, or downright evil systems. (Take the crone, for example, the powerful feminine creator was turned into a an old hag with a wart, crouched over a cauldron of bubbling brew, and we all know about the witch burnings)

With this Goddess suppression, humanity has managed to subtract half of the equation for a meaningful relationship with our sexuality.

Most religion has fought long and hard for centuries, choosing to portray sex as an unclean deed, something to be used only for procreation. This outright blasphemy of the true nature of divinity, has caused innumerable acts of despair, including the recent controversies surrounding priests molesting young children. This is what happens when we suppress our sexuality - we go crazy.

This post isn't meant to discredit the Catholic essence - I regularly call upon Jesus and Mother Mary for guidance, and am fascinated by Christian mysticism. It is meant, on the other hand, to call attention to the politics and dogma that have entered the sphere of what was once meant to be solely about love, and our relationship with the Universe, God... Spirit.

So I ask - Are you suppressing your sexuality because of a misguided belief that it is wrong? Has a religious upbringing caused you to fear sex? Are you honouring your Goddess energy, and allowing yourself to experience pleasure on a primal level?

It's not an easy road of healing to take, but it is a necessary one. A healthy expression of sexual energy is a conduit for quick manifestation, unbridled creativity, and unbounded joy. Let's take the journey together loves, for I'm still on it.

With love and light,

xo Beth

Ps. If you're interested in healing your sexuality, but need some guidance, check out Alison Braun - The Bedroom Joyologist. She has wonderful energy, and coaches women on how to find more joy both in, and out, of the bedroom.

If you'd like to start playing but don't want to go the coaching route, check out ecosex.ca - they've got toys and advice that are eco-friendly and well researched.

Love Takes Courage

What A Night of Puking Taught Me

Stretched out over the toilet after my most recent stomach hurl, I had to remind myself "This is the worst it feels, it gets better right after you puke."

It was my 6th, or 7th vomit of the night, and I was tired, wondering, "What the heaven is going on?" It had been over 7 years since I last puked from anything other than a night of drinking (University...)

Fast forward 12 hours, and I've had lots of time to contemplate, as I laid in my bed. In hopes of getting clarity on what was going on, I texted my mom first thing this morning, and she asked me "What makes you feel so vile you need to puke?" and I knew instantly - environmental pollution. Consistent chemicals, fear, and anger being sent towards the Earth. It had been building up for a few days, and apparently my body couldn't take it anymore. It needed to release.

And that's when I realized. This isn't working. My outlook isn't working. I can't continue to see smog, ignorance, greed, and poison affecting our planet, or I'll end up with many more days of illness and anger.

Perspective is everything. Sometimes I find it so easy to look at the world with love and light, and other times, like today, all I see is fear and it makes me feel constricted, like I don't know what to do and have nowhere to go.

Can you relate? Maybe your crutch isn't the environment, but poverty, abuse, or greed. Maybe you didn't puke because of it, but you feel sad inside, empty, as if you can't escape the so called "realities" of this world.

But there is a better way. A change of perspective is everything, and though it's hard, it's the only thing that will save us, it's the only thing that will save this beautiful planet. We must be committed to seeing the world with light, even in the midst of such darkness. We must find the beauty in the moment.  We must change what we see before what we see changes.

I'm choosing to do this today through commitment to a better way, affirmations, and prayer. I know that when I make a step, the Universe responds to me tenfold. What is your plan of action? How will you overcome darkness and climb to higher thoughts? Meditation, a phone call with a close friend, a funny movie? Whatever it may be, do it with love, and do it now. The world needs your light, and so do I.

We're in this together, friends.

xo Beth

Ps. Please read this wonderful blog by Gabby Bernstein if you related to this blog.